I’ve been talking about moving forward with resolutions for a few weeks now and for my final part of this series I want to focus on the hardest element of change – our existing character. It’s a truism that the only thing in the way of our success is ourselves so in order to achieve what we want it’s vital that we are completely honest with ourselves.
Whether you are looking for an NED, a new job, a voluntary position or a new venture, honesty is the only policy if it’s going to be a good fit. As in personal relationships, trying to be something you’re not is a certain route to failure and you will always be found out. Furthermore, our individual characters are also the reason we are where we are. Those characteristics have largely dictated our careers to date and, just as importantly, they are what have prevented us from moving in the directions we would like.
To break down the things that are holding us back it’s necessary to answer, with brutal honesty, the following questions:
It can be hard to see ourselves clearly and I am certainly not suggesting that I have any more self-awareness than most people but I am willing to interrogate my motives and my ability to change. I am also willing to put myself through a critical process and seek the opinion of those I respect so that I can gain perspective on my plans. When things don’t go the way I hoped I accept it, take responsibility and find a way to move on.
If we can’t be realistic about our capabilities then we won’t succeed, which is one of the reasons the Pluralists Club works so well; we support each other but we don’t stroke each other’s egos. With a wealth of experience and a range of skills, the Club offers the most inspiring support group, promoting a mindset of change and supplying a toolkit of strategies to get us where we want to go.